Teach People How To Treat You – Including The Ones You Date

Hello love Bugs, welcome to another edition of relationship talk. I feel like honestly this is how LaurenOLauren.com originally got started. Me talking about relationships and how people should be handling life situations. Recently I have been feeling hella inspired to talk about these things again. So let’s get into this one real quick.

My last blog post got a lot of great responses, I’m glad you guys have been loving my random thoughts. A really good friend posed a really interesting question – “What if the person you’re dating does not believe in Splurging”?. Now if that’s somebody’s belief it’s not your business to go about changing them. That’s just their stand point and sometimes there is nothing we can do about it. As usual I will use myself as an example to get my point across, I will go ahead and say. That this will never be the case for everyone, this is just my personal experience.

I grew up with a mother who taught me that nothing is too expensive if you want it and you are buying it FOR YOURSELF. Work your ass off and get it, she not only preached this but she lived this. I saw it in how she operated everyday to this very day. I grew up with that mentality, that way of thinking. I am going to give myself whatever I want, I deserve it all and I’m going to get it. Even if it means saving for a hundred years, Lauren will have it and somebody can give it to me, but nobody needs to, cause I’m gonna get it give it to me.

My husband has a very different upbringing from mine. Being the only boy surrounded by his mom and three sisters. I think it’s safe to say neither my husbands mom, nor any of his sisters would ever buy a bag for more than $500. They’re a little more sensible with their money. The town my husband grew up in and the girls he dated, were nothing like my materialistic $100 dollar a bottle for a face serum, overly dramatic ass. He had no idea what he got himself into when he proposed to me. I’m sure he wakes up everyday thinking, “Dam I fucked up, I could have married Jessica from math class” Jessica would have probably wanted to get her nails done once a month, a few highlights maybe twice a year, she probably hates the mall and loves watching football. Maybe he really did fuck up, lol.

Before I come off sounding like a materialistic shallow monster who hates American football, let me explain. I don’t force myself on anyone, this is who I am and this is what I like. I do it for myself, so if you don’t like it or don’t agree you can go or I can go. I’m not asking you to introduce or put me on to any lifestyle, this is how you met me. You can let me go, or I can But you will treat me the way I treat myself – PERIODT!!! Don’t get me wrong, If I can buy it for myself, I’ll buy it for my husband too. I have no problem spending money on my husband, I won’t spend a dime on a boyfriend, cause I’m just not that type of chic. But my husband if I can afford it, it’s his.

Not saying marriage is the only time you should be nice to your man, All I’m saying is “ME NAH DWEET AGAIN”. Me puddung Caylissness long time.

My husband isn’t the type to just buy me flowers for no reason. So I buy myself flowers every week. Now on occasion when there is no occasion he will come home with flowers. Class is in session, follow me – you can’t teach someone to be something they are not, but people won’t know how to treat you unless you show them how.

How are they supposed to know what you like. That’s why courting is so important, I feel with the new Social Media norms that society has forgotten about courting all together. Within a week or two, we post them on our Facebook, or Instagram for the entire world to see. Then it doesn’t work out, or maybe it does but we have to keep up appearances. Social Media just might be ruining courting, the sweetness of getting to know a complete stranger and telling your friends over the phone that he calls you all the time to talk about nothing.

Social Media has put a lot of unrealistic pressure on “Courting”. I will be doing a separate blog post on the Importance of Courting for the Social Media Generation. Please look out for that. Overall I think before anyone knows how to treat you, you must show them. It’s kind of like a complicated name, or a foreign word. Sometimes you’ll get it right but it’s best if the owner or the person of that tongue pronounces it for us.

Sound off below how do you guys feel about this.

xoxox Lauren