Here is Why Kim Kardashian and Beyonce Get it Right……..
Ok so once again I was just minding my business on twitter and saw this conversation, that had nothing to do with me. I mean NOTHING. Also it probably has nothing to do with the points Im about to make in this post. So a girl posted a gift she got from her a boyfriend/Fiancé. Then a random girl who I believe is suffering from a lot of hurt and should speak to a therapist responded. She responded basically with a thread of replies that made no dam sense, but her main point was her not knowing why women were impressed by the gifts they themselves should be able to afford. I saw where she was going, but nobody never ask her. She chat too much, She then went on to calling Jamaica a 3rd world country and saying the women were impressed by cheap things, Like I said this girl is hurting.
When I kept reading it I thought, she sounds pretty dumb attacking a stranger online. But also I know that whatever Kanye, Jay Z, Arod, etc buy their wives (or fiancé in JLo’s case) . It’s not a question, these women can afford it themselves, ten times over. However like I said she was suffering from something, and I was there once, it’s a rough patch she’ll be fine.
When Your Grind Is Just As Gritty As His…
Anyways back to my point – When you have your own money and marry a guy with money. Something magical happens he can’t tell you about what he does for you because, well you can afford to do it yourself. Something is very satisfying about being able to afford a sweet gift from your partner without them. It feels better than when a guy buys you an overpriced gift you couldn’t have afforded without him. Maybe that’s what today’s female rappers are trying to say, also if you haven’t heard my “Big D*CK Energy Playlist* On iTunes check it out here and go OFF SIS!!!! 💁🏾💁🏾
Like being pretty and getting men to pay for everything is great, but when you have your own money too it’s like an orgasm after mind blowing sex. It’s like when celebrities get free stuff, obviously they can afford all that shit, but designers give it to them and consider it a privilege that these super rich people would wear their pieces. It’s just like that in a relationship, he buys you a gift and hopes to God that you like it. Hopes that you will wear it and treasure it for it’s sentimental value and not just it’s value because it’s something expensive you couldn’t afford. Read that again, it might have come off confusing first time.
Have you ever seen a man out with his wife and she’s shopping and he might say something like. “I just provide the credit card” or “she has a closet full of purses I bought her”. It’s not him being rude, it’s a natural instinct. It’s something men have gotten used to. They are taught to save the damsel in distress, provide for their weaker half. But it’s a different vibe when they are put in a different position, one that requires them to impress a Queen.
Make me laugh, I’m bored.EVERY QUEEN IN THE HISTORY OF BAD BITCH NO MUZZEL
I have been paying attention to a lot of these women in the lime light. They get rich husband’s, but then something else happens. They don’t stay home and play house wife (not bashing anybody who does. Please don’t assume that’s what I’m doing) They keep working, they keep putting out new projects, they keep their income flowing. I swear Kim Kardashian has worked even harder since she got married and Beyonce doesn’t stop, sis went on a world tour twice right after having a baby, three babies to be exact. Victoria Beckham is still hands on with many projects, Jlo got enaged and I haven’t heard one mention of wedding plans, sis has been working. If those women aren’t relatable examples, Let’s talk about Draya.
From Reality TV to Business Mogul …..
So Draya as her Instagram handle suggest, got known from being on a reality show called Basket Ball Wives. The show follows women who are married or in relationships with athletes. Draya got engaged to Orlando an athlete whose last name I can’t remember, who plays a sport I also can’t remember. That’s not the point. I watched Draya’s growth and became a huge fan. She went from being called derogatory names to making it on Forbes list all by the sweat of her own back. To the point where she outgrew her fiancé, she got bigger than him and they broke up recently. I’m here on the sidelines screaming “Go Draya”. She’s been making boss moves for a while now, no matter how bad the internet tries to troll her or tear her down. Sis hasn’t fumbled the bag once, I STAN!!!!
In conclusion: Be a Queen who needs to be impressed, not a damsel who need saving. You might not be there yet, or even on a Beyonce level, that’s ok. That’s not the point, I don’t want you to stop for a second and get comfortable, I want you to keep grinding baby girl. Nothing is wrong with wanting a man to spoil you, I hope nobody misses my point, cause I LOVE being spoiled!!!!! But it feels so good when you and him KNOW, that you can spoil yourself too. Also don’t forget many damsels who were once in distress, turn out to be the Hero’s too, they just needed a jump start.
Have a great weekend Love Bugs, xoxox Lauren