If my husband said that I would honestly file for divorce and get his ass for Half of everything. Since you wanna be political about it here’s some politics for you. Marriage is NOT just a piece of paper, stop throwing your insecurities on something that has done nothing to you. If you married the wrong person, blame your dam self.
Marriage is two (depending on where you live, I hear it can be more than two sometimes) people coming together and deciding that they want to build something together. They have decided they want to grow old together, be with just each other, raise a child together basically decide another persons future, together . Do we even understand how important of a role parents play in the lives of the next generation. Yes I am aware that you do not have to get married to do this, but we are talking about why this whole marriage thing started in the first place.
Before there were rich football players, prenups and divorces, there have been marriages. Something that symbolizes that this man or this woman goes with this person and no one else is to look at them and they are to look at no one else. And that’s that on THAT, PERIODT. So again let me say this, marriage is not just a piece of paper. As a matter of fact I dare you to ask a guy/girl you’re dating what they think of that statement if they agree, you better RUN.
In marriage it means, when I get sick I will always have someone to hold me up. Help me to the bathroom when I can’t walk there alone, it means I always have a plus one, a travel buddy. My someone who will cheer me on when I have a dumb idea and need support. Marriage is so much more than a piece of paper. A Good marriage can lead you to a self discovery you probably wouldn’t be brave enough to arrive at alone, marriage can sometimes lead you to yourself and I mean that in a good way. Whenever I hear people say marriage is just a piece of paper I nod my head and say to myself, “What a fucking bitter idiot” and then I smile at the person and continue eating my donut.
How do you feel about marriage, comment below.
Shantel sue says
Hey Lauren 👋🏼.. big fan btw
I think that person means that most marriages not working out nowadays as to why he/she said it’s just a piece of paper. I am 23 not married hoping too one day. But I see it as something scary these days.. people don’t know what love and commitment is. Not willing to make the necessary sacrifices,full of ego, with this new technology now, things crazy. But I am hoping it will change and I will find a decent god fearing man to call husband. God bless u and baba 🙂❤️
I wholeheartedly agree with everything you just said, EGO kills more relationships that it ever brought together. Social media has made it that much harder for people to connect on a human level. I always tell people stop looking for the perfect person and become exactly what you want, the right person will come and you’re still very young.
Marriage is definitely not a piece of paper. If you marry the wrong person it can break you in ways you can never imagine and on the flip side if you marry the right person you’ll discover things you never think you would. Blessings 💐
Loved this so much, you hit the nail on the head!!!
Talika Holleman says
MY husband and I are no longer together at the moment… I still have access to what he Google’s… He was looking at Is marriage just a piece of paper… To me its not a piece of paper it a sacred vow that we both committed …. We I see that it makes me furious….
My understanding of marriage is ‘just a piece of paper’ is that some people cohabit, buy a house, have kids, have joint accounts pretty much do the same things as married people. In that light all that the certificate does is to formally acknowledge that already established union. 🤷🏽♀️
My Blog post is not to criticize anyone who does not want to get married its aimed at people who want to get married but they might have a partner who says it’s a piece of paper or people who are in a marriage and say that. For me personally its not just a piece of paper and I am not living with a man and doing all the traditional roles and baring a child and not be married to that man. If we’re going to do traditional things, I want your traditional last name. That’s not to say I judge people who don’t want to get married everyone can do whatever they want. I just find marriage is easier for the way I want to structure my family and grow my kids.
Like!! Really appreciate you sharing this blog post.Really thank you! Keep writing.
Hello, found this blog because I had to google, “marriage is just a piece of paper” because my boyfriend of 8 months said it to me last night. I was floored and felt such sadness. We are both divorced which is maybe why he has this attitude. I just wasn’t sure what to say in response. What I did say was that to me, while technically it is just a piece of paper, it carries with it an incredible amount of conditions and represents much more than just a union between two people. There are many implied conditions that come with that piece of paper that are each must uphold. I ended the conversation because I didn’t want to debate what he was feeling nor try to change his mind. I will search for more information so that I can articulate it properly. I’m just really sad.
My partner wanted to part and one of the reasons was because he felt we had different views in life. He is a divorcee too and didn’t feel a need to be married unless we have a child. Are you still with your boyfriend now? Did his views change?
Literally not one single thing you listed requires being married to do. This is very much a strong argument for why it IS just a piece of paper. Because every single thing you listed about how much of a commitment it is can be done with or without that piece of paper. Thus, truly, the only changed thing is the piece of paper.
Don’t get married then.