This sounds weird coming from me cause for a long time I not only truly believed that Black men hated black women, but I was selling that narrative to others. I had a conversation years ago with my cousin a black man, raised by a single black woman say that he didn’t date black women because “Black women are ugly”. My ugly ass cousin had the nerve to call black women ugly.
Growth is a helluva thing and over the years, I’ve observed and seen a lot. But it really hit me about ten minutes ago when I saw somebody tweet something about Snoop Dog on Jada Pinkett’s show talking about his attack on Gayle King. Jada was basically saying his attack on Gayle King was an attack on Black women and she felt some type of way. The comments under the post from other black women were saying yes, black men are always disrespecting black women. Then it hit me, I literally said out loud “Holy shit this is a set up”
I feel like an idiot for buying into it. What Gayle King did was wrong, and Snoop never attacked black women he attacked Gayle what she did to a dead man and a grieving family. Snoop would have said the same thing had Gayle been any other race. I was even on twitter doing my part tweeting at Gayle saying she should feel terrible for what she did and I don’t take it back. That has nothing to do with Black Men against Black Women. Which authority turned this into a black on black crime. I refuse to be distracted by somebody else’s agenda. Call me Hippie but this shit is looking like an agenda.
Rap Music,Rich Black Men & The Media
There are white men out there who don’t date white women, there are Latino men who don’t date Latino women. In every single race there are men who don’t date inside their race. Nobody is saying they are disrespectful or hate their own women. They might say it behind close doors and at the family Christmas party when no one is looking. But never put on blast for the public to have fun with it.
But where the best at, Aint no need of even asking bro. The best women all reside in AfricaPimping All Over the World. Ludacris & Bobby Valentino. 2004. – Album “Red Light District”
For a long time they blamed rappers, for the way they spoke about women in music, but to be fair they group all women and it’s not just black women. Women twerking and being half naked in videos, it was just the industry and what men liked seeing. I’m just playing devils advocate, hear me out. Who really controls the music industry and its narrative? We see black rappers but it isn’t controlled by black people *sips iced chai slowly before continuing*
It’s been said that when black men get rich they don’t date white women, but honestly is that 100% accurate who did that research and who credited it’s findings. We should also understand that we don’t know how they are being influenced once they enter “The Rich Black Men Club”. There are so many rich black men that marry black women, that no one talks about because, well ask yourself. Why don’t they talk about them??
I can’t believe I’m actually saying this when I’ve subscribed to this narrative for so long. I feel like I’m breaking up with a lover just typing this. *Sigh* Black men don’t hate black women, they’ve been conditioned to do a lot of things, yes it’s wrong but we can change it going forward. I’m going bring up my ugly cousin again. My cousin’s mom a black woman who supported both of her sons and their worthless father, could have educated my cousin better. But instead I have heard her speak ill of black women, and watch her face light up when she tells her friends her son only dates White or Spanish girls.
If a black mother isn’t going to be offended after she single handedly raised two sons and took care of their father who contributed nothing to upbringing of her sons. Then why would my cousin think he is wrong. Not just that, when I tried to tell my cousin that what he said was wrong, my aunt, let’s call her my Mom’s sister cause to be honest I don’t like that woman. My mother’s sister had the nerve to call my phone and tell me that I have no right disciplining her son for calling black women ugly and he can date whoever he wants. She not only missed the point completely, but she is THE PROBLEM. Also I hate her, I just wanted to write that again. In case she comes across this blog post, I just want to say Dear Beverly, I do not like you 🙃🙃.
So to bring this blog that has now turned into an angry letter to my mother’s sister. I am now seeing that there is some type of agenda happening. They have some how tried to flip the fact that Gayle was speaking ill of a dead man, which in my culture is disrespectful because the dead can not defend themselves. It has now become Snoop Dog hates black women.
Kobe was alive for so many years after the charges and court case, WHY ON GOD’S earth did you not talk to him about it or drag his name when he was alive and well. He has left behind a grieving wife and three daughters. You people are savages, I will not subscribe to this prepackaged bitterness anymore. Rape is wrong but we will not pretend like women are incapable of lying when there is a lot of money involved. Men lie and women lie just the same. Life is good and though we may have our problems as a people in general, its nothing a little understanding and growth can’t fix. Please sound off below respectfully.
Oh my god I’m obsessed with you. That’s exactly what I said. She had an agenda it hadn’t been a week after he passed when she got the cameras and her clipboard ready to tarnish this man’s name but iy certainly has been 17 years since that case so why now ???
That’s what upset me the most like Kobe has been alive so long after, but now that he’s dead you all have the strength to go after him. Come one im not buying it
Suzan Black says
Well written! Black people are always put on blasts, about us not liking each other. I too do believe that we too should be able to date outside our race without it being seen as a “hate crime”. It doesn’t mean we don’t love each other. What we need to do however, is to respect each other’s differences and when one of us does something to hurt or speak ill of another, then it shouldn’t be a problem if that person is called out on their wrong and asked to do better.
EXACTLY!!!! I dont know why they made it about race it wasn’t about race, GAYLE Needs to apologize to the family. I feel like American media think they are entitled to certain things and they really aren’t. The media in this country is the reason why people can’t be civil towards each other. They report on the negative day and night, yet nobody is bother Harvey Weinstein’s guilty little self. ughhhhh