Now I know this might sound crazy coming from me, a married woman who got married at 25 but hear me out. I saw a tweet the other day from one of the most amazing souls I know. She spoke about being 30 and single and it made me sad that many women think this way.
Here’s why being 30 and Single can be a blessing in disguise. Your twenties and your thirties can seem like two completely different people. Heck depending on who you are, they are two different people. I know I might sound a bit hypocritical, but also think I have very good insight into this.
Don’t look at yourself as expired because you’re 30 and not married yet, look at yourself as the complete puzzle, and not something someone has to piece together. This is not the best analogy but possibly the best I could come up with at the moment. Women are forced and I use the word forced to mature at a younger age than men and that is just facts. Also Mother Nature has been so kind as to set certain restrictions on us. Therefore we would love to spend majority of our life playing the field until we get bored and propose to the guy with the biggest penis but who said life is fucking fair. A guy said that maybe, I man if anybody said it was a man.
However at 22 you might think you have found the love of your life and it seems that way sometimes. But now you’re 29 and you’re looking at your life and your partner differently. It’s the small things sometimes not big things, you’ve become more aware of your weight so you want to start working out and eating better, you’re paying attention to ingredients. You like to volunteer and the persons you married at 22, well they still like doing the things they were doing at 22.
Maybe your partner didn’t evolve or worst maybe you both evolved but in completely different ways. Evolution is a personal thing. These things happen when you marry before you find yourself. The fact is we are constantly evolving, but if I had to choose I would say the biggest evolution of ourselves is between our twenties and thirties.
Look at the friends you had in your early twenties. Are you still friends with a lot of those people? Jesus I cant b believe I hung out with some of the people. So now you’re thirty and you’re not married, Perfect. This is the perfect situation, cause now you know all about finances, paying bills ontime and staying away from trends like neon. I hated neon so much, I couldn’t wait for it to be over. The person who marries this version of you wins big time, you’re sure of yourself, you’re confident, you know what you want. You like to be complimented but alas you do not need approval. You are not damaged sweetheart. You are the magic at the end of the end of the rainbow.
Girl but if you’re NOT confident and sure of yourself? You don’t know who you are and still trying to figure shxt out?? What then??
Then sweetie we just keep making baby steps and follow our heart, There is no recipe
Awesome piece written here, i love this….
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Bruh!!!! I legit just had this conversation with my lady friends. I hate that women feel that getting married is an achievement, and if they havent done so before 30, “cuz time is against us bullsh**t”, they have failed. As you so well said, society at the time (aka men), indoctrinated us with these lies.
Listen while they play the field and wreck. bunch of hearts, spirits and people white they’re at it. Nothing is wrong with 30 and Single.